by wjr953 » August 6th, 2008, 11:43 pm
Cowboy,
I coached LL baseball for 14 years, and umpired for 8 years before I finally stepped aside for the younger guys. I wish I could tell you that your son's story is one that I hadn't heard before. It isn't. I really hate it that some coaches put winning and their own personal agenda before the best interests of the kids. It happens over and over and over again in youth sports, and each time that I see it, it gets more sickening and more tiresome. I have always tried to teach my players the nuances of the game of baseball from the ground up, all the while motivating them to achieve bigger and better things both on and off the field. My end objective always was to help these kids to challenge themselves and to develop a passion for this game that I love, and to learn something about life in the process. When all is said and done, most kids won't even remember whether they won or lost. What they will remember is who their teammates were and whether or not they had fun. My Dad also coached LL for 30 years, and I learned an awful lot from him. He had also seen more than his fair share of this scenario played out many, many times. One thing that I did learn from him was this: If a manager or coach looks you in the eye and tells you with a straight face that he is "in it for the kids" RUN, don't walk in the opposite direction because what that person is telling you is the farthest thing from the truth. Good managers/coaches and truly knowledgeable baseball people prove their worth through their actions, not their words. They don't need to hold up their lifetime won/lost records to prove themselves to anyone. Instead, they see the kids that played for them, that are still playing past LL age, and they're loving every minute of it . They smile a knowing smile, because they know that they played some small part in that players' life. Why some adult coaches don't get this is beyond me. The best thing that I could ever say about another coach or manager at the youth level is that this person "gets it". They get it, they understand what's truly important in all of this. The bottom line in youth sports is simply this: It's never been about just winning at all costs, and it never will be. It's not about the personal glory of adults, and it was never supposed to be. If adults don't understand these very basic principles, then they really have no business being involved in youth sports, period.
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